a friend and i sat across from each other at dinner the other day talking about how blk men and white men could find ways to connect easier..we figured out that blk dudes feel anger towards white men and white men feel fear towards blk dudes..it makes sense to me..in a bar/club white boys will look at me but never approach..online i’m swamped with offers of pussy. it’s easier online cos the fear factor has been removed. i will say this to you, acting femme will not further your cause..blk men are straight forward, masculine assertive creatures for the most part, if you want to appeal to blk dudes you should give off the same kind of energy. i can’t tell you how many white men look away or down on the street in NY when I pass them..be bold, if you see a guy you like check him out..let him see you checking him out..if his eyes fall on you, don’t look away, make eye contact, show him you like the way he is sizing you up. i walked past a cute kid on the street the other day, thick rugby build, blonde hair blue eyes, early twenties, as we passed i checked him up and down as i usually do thinking that he would be oblivious to my lustful stares as so many white boys are..he kept my gaze the whole time, he even gave me a sexy little smile which i couldn’t resist, so we stopped and exchanged numbers, my point is even if your wish is to be femme you white boys need to step it up..don’t be so fearful..add a little swagger to your game..if landing a big blk stud is your goal..this will work wonders.

good luck.